The Aries type is the most personal of the Fire signs, and it is often seen as selfish. Aries people are not selfish on purpose, but they tend to be thoughtless. They pursue their own interests with enthusiasm and seldom realize that what they are doing might overwhelm or hurt another individual. If this is pointed out to Aries, they will be hurt and usually 
defensive. After giving some thought to the situation, they'll probably apologize.

Aries discover they have hurt or disregarded someone, they are often filled with remorse. 
It's a combination of idealism and enthusiasm. As Aries people mature, they begin out of 
necessity to cultivate patience in order to lessen the hurt feelings around them.

Aries usually say 'no' to anything suggested to them at the time the suggestion is made. 
But the saving grace of the Aries is that they do go away and think about what you've 
said, and eventually you'll see that they adopt your suggestions, if those suggestions are 
good. Aries are always in a hurry, rushing into the future looking to accomplish 
something - and they don't always know what that mysterious 'something' is. They are 
trained at an early age to react to accomplishment because Daddy thinks it's important. 
The father may not accomplish anything in the world's definition of the word, but it must 
be kept in mind that a child's perception of adult behavior may be very different from an 

The Aries child may have a parent who either talks about accomplishment or feels guilty 
when enough isn't being done around the home; Aries may also have a parent who 
actually is an accomplishment-oriented individual. These children tend to be born to 
parents who 'worry' about accomplishment. The father of the Aries child is a man who 
seems to be respected or idealized for his work. He may only be a laborer, but he is good 
at his job. He may also be unhappy; if he is a laborer and he wants to be a businessman, 
for example, he may retreat into the power plays that frustrated people choose in order 
to express his discomfort. When the Aries child is small, Daddy comes home either as a 
'big deal' or as a tyrant; and, depending on the particular father type, the child will 
develop his own behavior pattern accordingly.

The mother is seen as a service figure - it isn't that the Aries child hates the mother, but 
the mother-figure is someone who provides a service. In the case of the father-tyrant, the 
Aries sees the mother as a 'poor, frightened creature' who stays in a difficult marriage 
because she doesn't know how to change her circumstances. The Aries child may be 
defensive of the mother; may take Mom's side in quarrels between Mom and Dad, and 
will try to help the mother as soon as Aries is old enough to provide emotional or financial 
support. However, the mother gets more pity and compassion than love from this child - 
and aries will in some way, as an adult, emulate the father's position.

This is the way it works: the Aries male is often uncomfortable about his love for his 
mother - he may care for Mom more than the Aries female does. He may think that he's 
too close to Mom emotionally; perhaps too much like her as far as his emotional reactions 
are concerned. If this is the case, he may avoid her as he becomes an adult. He wants to 
be as much like his father as possible. Emotional closeness to his mother usually doesn't 
enhance his self-image. The Fire sign person has some natural confusion about sexuality - 
for them, sex includes ideals as well as action and feeling. The idealistic types feel a bit 
embarrassed about sexuality, so the Aries male tends to treat women like little girls or 
daughters - and he plays the father. It may be that when his personality was forming, he saw his father treat his mother like a little girl. It is not uncommon for the mother of an 
Aries child to call her husband 'Father' during the child's formative years.

The Aries male has an image of Woman that combines Lolita with the maids in King 
Arthur's court. he wants a genteel woman who doesn't swear, who presents herself like a 
little lady, who doesn't confront him; and he's generally a male chauvinist as a young 
man. The youthful innocent he is pursuing must also fit his anima image - a long-tressed 
damsel in distress. He gets easily disappointed in love situations because he tends to pick 
the Cancer type femals for a partner. She often turns out to be much stronger than she 
looks; he then finds he has toruble running the relationship. He is not really sure of 
himself in romantic situations - or in relationship situations in general. His Fire sign 
idealism tries to maintain a courtship throughout a love relationship because that's what 
he thinks love is. As soon as he sees hair curlers or has to work through a problem that 
requires some kind of compromise, the 'romance' is not as wonderful as it once was.

The Aries female has compassion for her mother - but she vows never to put herself into 
the same situation that her mother is on. She doesn't want her mother's career, or her 
mother's kind of marriage. She may be so father-dominated (through either love or hate) 
that she actually ends up being a 'better man' than most men. In other words, it's 
important to the Aries woman that she acts like a 'man' and not like a 'woman' - that she 
be 'rational' rather than 'emotional'. When she marries, she often marries a childish man 
so that she is, in essence, the head of the household... like Daddy.

She tries to prove herself by doing everything well; she therefore has difficulty letting her 
partner do anything. It's easy to fall into the trap, for the Aries female can't stand to 
watch a man do a chore the hard way - so she does it for him. Sooner or later she notices 
that he isn't doing anything - since she has done everything so well, why should he? 
Ultimately, some event occurs that is so stressful to her that she falls apart and has no-
one to help her out of her dilemma because her man doesn't realize that she really needs 
help. She can be so overpowering in her identification with 'fatherdom' that she runs 
away from all the mature folks and winds up loving people who need to be saved.

This is exemplified in the positive sign female who has an overdose of the masculine 
principle within her system and within her environment. When this principle is not 
understood, both the personal life and the career can be affected by this 
misunderstanding. The misunderstood masculine principle causes one to imitate 
culturally definied 'masculine' behavior. It is possible for an Aries female to develop a 
career, to develop her mind, and to find enjoyable and creative outlets for expression 
when she understands what kind of energy she is blessed with. Jung's definition of the 
'animus' may give a better understanding of the problem. The positive sign female 
unconsciously lends more credence to the animus, and thereby loses a part of her sense 
of feminine values. When a woman has no real sense of the feminine within herself - that 
is, she doesn't think women are worth much - she often tries to be what she considers 
'manly'. This has nothing to do with homosexuality; it merely indicates the kind of 
hardness that can be involved in developing the personality.

Aries women can be extremely competitive with their fathers later in life; they can 
unconsciously illustrate the strength of the mythic Father image. For example, when an 
Aries female is involved with family situations, she often tries to outdo her father. She 
may even try to take away her father's position in his marriage. A case in point is an Aries 
female who rushed into the middle of her parents' marriage at a time when the mother 
was critically ill. The father wanted to do one thing; the daughter wanted to do another. 
The daughter didn't ask her mother what she wanted in terms of therapy. Instead, Aries 
took over the solution of the problem. The moral of the story is that she was trying to be 
'a better man' to her mother than her father was. Of course, this attitude alienated 
everyone in the family and poor Aries couldn't understand why.

When Aries don't understand their energy; when they don't understand what motivates 
them to action, their wonderful Aries ideas can be wasted because they may not be presented in an acceptable manner. The Aries female, in her quest for being helpful to 
others, may push ideas on people when they aren't ready to accept those ideas, or when 
those ideas haven't been asked for.

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